Divorce is a common issue faced by young people today. As a school counselor, I have seen on a daily basis these emotional issues that impact the child's abiilty to learn. This letter sums up what a child needs to understand about divorce, thus giving them the freedom to move on with their life.
I have been to the counselor’s office to talk about divorce. I have learned:
- I do fun things with both Mom and Dad and it is okay to tell one parent I had fun at the other parent’s house. Both of you want me to be happy wherever I am.
- Both Mom and Dad love me and want me to be happy.
- Divorce is definitely NOT my fault! It is an adult decision my parents have made.
- Children want their parents to live together. They hope, if they are ‘good’ their parents will get back together again, but this is not true.
- Any feelings I have are okay. I drew a picture of my houses and my families and talked about how I felt about divorce.
- If I hear my parents arguing, I can go to my room and listen to music or play a game.
- Many children have divorced parents. I am not the only one.
Please talk with me about these things at home.
Love, Your Child
(Taken from Counselor’s Pages, Marco Products, Inc)